“The scribes and the Pharisees sit on Moses’ seat, so do and observe whatever they tell you, but not the works they do. For they preach, but do not practice.” — Matthew 23:2 – 3 ESV
A couple of weeks ago we discussed parenting, and an important aspect of parenting is our behaviour and actions. This also applies not only in the home but in every area of our lives.
Most of us have heard the saying, “Action speaks louder than words”. This is so true because no matter who we are, people measure us by our words and actions (especially Christians). They observe how well these two align which then commands either their respect or disrespect for the individual.
It is good to train and discipline our children, by telling them what’s right and wrong. However, they pick up mostly from what they see us do or say as parents. As an educator, I’ve heard and seen learners say and do horrible things to fellow students. After some interrogation into their actions or behaviour, they say something like, “My mum or dad says it.” They have been misled by their parents, believing whatever they do as adults is right.
It is no surprise that our children pick up our actions, good or bad; directly or indirectly. Surprisingly, the Bible has some examples. In the book of Genesis (chapter 20), Abraham found himself in a sticky situation when he sojourned in Gerar. For fear that his wife, Sarah might get him killed because of her beauty, he lied that she was his sister. On hearing that, the King of Gerar took Sarah for himself, only to be warned off by God.
Years later, Isaac did the same thing, in the same place—Gerar, and for the same reason—his wife Rebekah (Genesis 26). Even though Isaac wasn’t born when Abraham’s incident occurred, somehow, he picked up on his father’s behaviour and copied it.
The second incident was between Rebekah and Jacob. Jacob is already known to have a cheating streak as his name implies – supplanter. His mother even encouraged his bad behaviour by scheming with him to steal Esau’s blessing.
When a child exhibits some undesirable behaviour or attitude, as parents, we are not to encourage them down that path like Rebekah. We need to help them develop godly character encouraging them to improve and do better.
Likewise, Jesus is warning us not to behave like the Pharisees and scribes whose actions do not line up with their words.
Jesus said, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” Matthew 5:16 (ESV)
Stay blessed,
LaraLex
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